It’s important to think about why you want to be in a relationship, because it will impact the type of union you create. Do you want to share your life with someone? Or are you looking for someone to rescue you from loneliness, or make you feel happy? Tying your emotions to someone else will always leave you feeling out of control and dependent. Until you learn to make your own joy, you’ll have trouble attracting someone who is happy with himself—which is crucial to creating a mutually beneficial love connection.