Hold Up! Better Ways to Express Anger

What we can learn from Solange’s recent violent outburst. 

Posted: 05/13/2014 04:17 PM EDT

The internet nearly broke when TMZ made public the footage of Beyonce’s sister, Solange’, literally punching and kicking Jay-Z in a hotel elevator one week earlier after the New York MET Gala.  Many speculations still surround why the young soul singer hauled off and hit the multi-platinum mogul, but one thing is for sure, she was mad.  And when a person is mad or angry, many things go through your mind–some not so good.

That kind of anger can happen to any one of us, so it’s important that we understand what anger is and how you (and all of us) can control our anger better.

Understanding Anger

The emotion of anger is neither good nor bad. It’s perfectly healthy and normal to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged. The feeling isn’t the problem—it’s what you do with it that makes a difference. Anger becomes a problem when it harms you or others.

Mastering the art of constructive anger takes work, but the more you practice, the easier it will get. And the payoff can be huge. Learning to control your anger and express it appropriately can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a healthier, more satisfying life.

Understand How We Express Anger

Usually, anger manifests itself in one of three ways. Outward expressions of anger include yelling, screaming or violence, and even less threatening approaches like sarcasm. Inward expressions include feelings like seething, biting your tongue, or suppressing angry feelings. Neither of these approaches is healthy. The third way to express anger is control and channel it into more acceptable methods of expression.

Read more about controlling your anger at BlackDoctor.Org.

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