Great Expectations: 9 Sex Myths Debunked

How to get yours and have more fun between the sheets.

Real Talk - You would think that for as long as people have been having sex, we would collectively have a better understanding of it. But alas, there are several myths that refuse to die. Here, we break ’em down. By Kenrya Rankin Naasel (Photo: GettyImages) 

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Real Talk - You would think that for as long as people have been having sex, we would collectively have a better understanding of it. But alas, there are several myths that refuse to die. Here, we break ’em down. By Kenrya Rankin Naasel (Photo: GettyImages) 

Fabulous Sex Comes Easily - We blame movies, where foreplay is virtually nonexistent and both partners finish quickly and simultaneously. Over here in the real world, that kind of sync is a rarity, especially the first time you get down. So don’t panic if it takes you a while to get your rhythm with a new partner. (Photo: Screen Gems Productions/Sony Pictures)

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Fabulous Sex Comes Easily - We blame movies, where foreplay is virtually nonexistent and both partners finish quickly and simultaneously. Over here in the real world, that kind of sync is a rarity, especially the first time you get down. So don’t panic if it takes you a while to get your rhythm with a new partner. (Photo: Screen Gems Productions/Sony Pictures)

Establish a Ritual - If you have a creativity-heavy task that you must complete regularly, fashion a ritual to help you get in the mood. So if you have to write stories for a client each day, you could start by grabbing a banana, sitting at your desk, silencing your phone and putting on a specific playlist to get you in the right mindset. (Photo: ballyscanlon/Getty Images)

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Size Matters - Big or little, the size of his member isn’t directly related to your experience. The key is to have fun and pick positions that get you off. If he’s on the smaller side, opt for positions that get you closer together, such as from behind with your shoulders on the bed. If he’s larger, hop on top so you can control his depth.  (Photo: GettyImages)

You’ll Be More Mature - In a marriage, you have to think about the other person — not everything is about you. With age comes maturity for many of us. It’s that maturity that will help you be a better partner and parent. (Photo: LWA/Dann Tardif/Blend Images)

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Men and Women Peak at Different Times - While men’s testosterone levels do reach an all-time high around age 18, that has nothing to do with how good they are at sex or even how often they want it. And women don’t have a set peak—satisfaction really depends on how well you can sync up with your partner. (Photo: LWA/Dann Tardif/Blend Images)

The G-Spot Is a Myth - Tell that to women who have found it! A French study found that it does indeed exist on the front wall of the vagina, and it can even produce the super-elusive vaginal orgasm when stimulated the right way. How to hit the spot: Have your partner use a finger to make a “come here” motion.(Photo: Image Source/Corbis)

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The G-Spot Is a Myth - Tell that to women who have found it! A French study found that it does indeed exist on the front wall of the vagina, and it can even produce the super-elusive vaginal orgasm when stimulated the right way. How to hit the spot: Have your partner use a finger to make a “come here” motion.(Photo: Image Source/Corbis)

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They Make You Feel Good - Breasts are also sex organs, wired directly to the same parts of the brain that light up when your love below is stimulated. Score!  (Photo: Don Mason/Blend Images/Corbis)

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Climaxing Is the End Goal - Sure, it’s fun to “finish,” but it’s not necessary to have a great time. In fact, a researcher/sex educator found that many people aren’t as concerned with it as they are with enjoying their partner. (Photo: Don Mason/Blend Images/Corbis)

All Women Climax During Vaginal Intercourse - Yeah, no. In fact, most women actually need clitoral stimulation to reach the big O. There’s a reason folks think the G-Spot—which is key to vaginal orgasms—is a myth. It’s hard to find and even when you do, it’s hard to properly stimulate, and a penis is not the optimal tool to do it.(Photo: David Jakle/Corbis)

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All Women Climax During Vaginal Intercourse - Yeah, no. In fact, most women actually need clitoral stimulation to reach the big O. There’s a reason folks think the G-Spot—which is key to vaginal orgasms—is a myth. It’s hard to find and even when you do, it’s hard to properly stimulate, and a penis is not the optimal tool to do it.(Photo: David Jakle/Corbis)

Stop Sleeping With Men Who Don’t Reciprocate - 2016 is a year of not wasting your time with men who want oral sex all the time but refuse to return the favor. No one has time for that. If that’s what you need to be satisfied, then PLEASE find someone who actually cares and wants to please you.(Photo: Chat Roberts/Corbis)

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Tantric Sex = Hour-Long Orgasms - Nope. It just emphasizes building up to orgasm, rather than the actual climax. In fact, the longest actual lab-recorded O lasted one full minute—a long time for most folks, and way short of an hour. (Photo: Chat Roberts/Corbis)

Women Can’t Have Casual Sex - Say what? We don’t even need statistics to debunk this one. Clap your hands if you’ve ever gotten it in with someone who you weren’t in a committed relationship with…. Yeah, the noise is deafening! (Photo: 68/George Doyle/Ocean/Corbis)

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Women Can’t Have Casual Sex - Say what? We don’t even need statistics to debunk this one. Clap your hands if you’ve ever gotten it in with someone who you weren’t in a committed relationship with…. Yeah, the noise is deafening! (Photo: 68/George Doyle/Ocean/Corbis)

It is an antidepressant. - Don’t go tossing out your meds, but studies show that vaginal contact with semen is linked with a boost in mood and less depression. Turns out, it is loaded with feel-good chemicals, including endorphins, prolactin, oxytocin and serotonin. (Photo: Kevin Radford/Masterfile/Corbis)

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Porn Is for Guys - It’s true that most porn is geared toward men, but researchers have found that ladies get just as turned on as the hairier sex when they watch it. Use it during foreplay to ramp up the action. (Photo: Don Mason/Blend Images/Corbis)