Mo'Nique Has More Reasons on Why You Should Let Your Man Cheat

The actress thinks monogamy is a "Western" thing.

Mo'Nique's philosophy on a successful relationship has been no secret for years. The actress firmly believes that open relationships work once both partners are completely honest. She says that the relationship becomes "real" when that level of trust is reached.

"Honesty. That's it. When I hear men say, 'I don't tell my wife everything, you crazy?' and I hear women say, 'I ain't telling my husband that, you crazy?' So you mean you trust somebody else other than the person you lay with every night, you slept with, you cried with, you make love to?" she said during an interview with True Exclusives. "So I think those long-lasting things is simply honesty and communication. It's got to be your best friend. You're laying with this person every night. If you can't tell that person how you feel, then you're in a bad way."


The Oscar-winning actress admitted years ago to having an open marriage with her husband, and even revealed that she had her reservations about it during a 2013 interview. However, it seems as she's still sticking to it, saying that she understands why some would prefer that dynamic.

"The person that you stood up and you said, 'For better, for worse, sickness and in health, richer or poorer,' you took those vows in front of the universe. If you don't live by them, then maybe you shouldn't have taken them," she said. "And when you say, 'A pass to cheat,' see, when you're with your best friend and you say to your best friend, 'I'm having these feelings about this person, sexually, and I want to share it with you.' When you're best friends, you can have those open and honest conversations. Oftentimes, people cheat because of something they're not getting. But when you have open and honest dialogue, and you say we're just human beings. And all these people on the face of the earth, do you think my eyes won't ever say, 'He's fine' or 'She's attractive'?"

Ending the interview, the Blackbird actress said that people who look at infidelity in relationships as a death sentence have adopted a Western mentality. "We've been taught to have ownership, and that's the Western way to do it," she said. "When we came here, we adopted other people's ways, and that's called ownership. There was a time when I was owned before. I don't want to be owned anymore."

Check out our rundown of Mo'Nique's words in the BET Breaks video above. is your No. 1 source for Black celebrity news, photos, exclusive videos and all the latest in the world of hip hop and R&B music. 

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