Last month, it may have come as a shock to the system when news surfaced that LisaRaye got engaged on the ABC show “The Proposal,” to Anthony B, a 44-year-old sales rep from her hometown of Chicago.

Confused? Many were, especially when just a month after their engagement, she confirmed “it’s over,” via an Instagram post. 

So what happened? The 51-year-old actress spilled the tea on a Facebook Live video as to why she chose to not get married.

Admitting she was “lonely,” The Player’s Club actress addressed speculations that she was a gold digger, clarifying that she doesn’t feel bad about a desiring a man "equally yoked."

“Money can't buy you happiness, but love can't pay the bills. At all,” she admitted while acknowledging she wants a man to be able to provide on her level of needs.

"I don't want to wear the pants in my relationship," she said during her video. "I wear the pants now. I do everything."

The Chicago Native also explained that she doesn’t have the time nor the patience for an insecure man. 

"I'm not going to be standing in someone's face trying to figure out 'How are we going to pay our bills?' because we're doing that naturally and normally on the level of survival. So, I don't want to hear that shit about 'Oh, she a gold digger.' Like I said, gold digging is high school. I'm at platinum status now. I want someone that will not be intimated by coming into my life, by sharing in my lifestyle because I'm not gone change that. Because if you can't handle it now where I'm at, then you're not going to be able to handle it when I grow even more and I'm doing that every day," she shared.

"I don't have time for anyone to come into my home and see how I live and go ‘oh, I'm not going to be able...' Don't waste each other’s time. I'm not leaving my environment or my home and you take me to a hut, or you take me to a one-bedroom apartment that's not furnished. I'm not leaving that. I'm not going backward. I'm not going down. I'm not suppressing anything. I'm not doing none of that shit for nobody. I want to be equally yoked. People on different levels move differently."

She then went on to add, "What did Beyoncé say? The hustle has to match. It has to match. We often think, what if Beyoncé and Jay Z broke up? Who in the hell would they date? That would be very hard for both of them."

In conclusion, she let it be known that she once had a discussion with Anthony about their relationship and they soon realized there was no chemistry between them but much more "friend energy.” 

They later decided that they were better off as friends.

Although it didn’t work out, LisaRaye plans to keep looking for love.

"I'm still going to continue to look for love," she said. "I'm looking for a portion of my father. Somebody who's going to look at me and love me, and cherish me and take care of me. Absolutely am. So, I'm not scared of trying to find love again. And you all will know when I find it too because I'll be happy. And I'll have a much bigger ring than what I got [laughs]. Because honey, that was like, 'where it's at?' My everyday ring was bigger than that."

Watch her full explanation below: