What Women Really Want | Body and Soul

What Women Really Want | Body and Soul

Published November 12, 2009

(www.BlackDoctor.org) -- By now you’ve heard it all – women are from another planet, women can’t make up their minds…the list goes on and on. One thing is for certain though. When it comes to what turns women on, their minds are definitely made up.

It’s not that women are all that complicated to understand. It’s just that what is important to a woman may not necessarily be all that important to a man. One thing is for certain though: if giving her what she wants will ultimately get you what you want, why would you do anything less?

The key to understanding a woman is simple. If you can grasp the concept that for women, being turned on starts OUTSIDE of the bedroom, then you’ll be way ahead of the learning curve. Women need to feel a sense of “connectedness” to their man. They attempt to achieve that connection through talking, touching, kissing, cuddling, holding hands, etc., and engaging in activities outside of the bedroom. When the connection is strong, it spells passion between the sheets. However, when a woman feels disconnected, it’s hard for her to get in (or stay in) the mood – especially if the problem continues over a long period of time.

Still don’t get it? Think about it like this: for women, foreplay is more mental than anything else. The more you can titillate her mind, the more likely she will be to share herself passionately with you. It’s the little things that tend to matter most to women – the unexpected phone call just to say “I’m thinking about you,” the Post-It note on the mirror that reads: “Can’t wait to see you tonight,” helping with chores around the house without her having to ask.

Got it? Good. Now get to it!


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