(Photo: Complex Magazine, February 2015)
Jennifer Lopez is showing us what our mid-forties could look like if we hit the gym 24/7 and dream hard. The singer is currently covering Complex magazine’s February/March 2015 issue in a voyeuristic themed photo shoot to nod to her latest film, The Boy Next Door. In her interview, Lopez opens up about the criticisms she’s received for being a mom who’s still doing sexy music videos.
“I’m not allowed to be sexy because I’m a mom? It’s like, How do you think I got my children? [Laughs.] The truth is I don’t want to do anything that they would be embarrassed of in the long run. But at the end of the day, they care more about me being there, taking care of them, than if I’m sexy in a video,” the 45-year-old said.
In the thriller The Boy Next Door, Lopez accidentally gets involved with a younger man who turns out to be obsessed with her. He even goes so far as to violate her privacy and make some intimate photos very public, so Lopez took this opportunity to address the celebrity nude photo scandal that attacked many last year.
“It’s an invasion of privacy. You want to think that you can have privacy in this world — even with your devices. When people think it’s OK to do stuff like that for entertainment purposes and to embarrass people or take their intimate private moments, it’s cruel. It should be punishable,” she said. “We should have a choice about what we do. Nobody should be stolen from. You shouldn’t be stolen from just because you decided to take a crazy picture with your girlfriend or your boyfriend one day. We decide what we do with our private things."
Speaking of relationships, Lopez shared how her view on romance and relationships hasn’t faltered despite her divorces. Instead, it’s made her take a good look at her self and find the lessons in her past failures.
“Talking about self-esteem, when my first marriage didn’t work out, my second marriage didn’t work out, and I was with Marc [Anthony] and I was trying to make it work, and that didn’t work out, it was devastating,” she said. “Each time I felt like such a failure, from what I’d been taught. Those are things that grate on your self-esteem. ‘OK, I failed. Why can’t I make this work?’ But it forces you to look at yourself in the best way possible. I’m grateful for all those trials and tribulations because with that you gain perseverance and the desire to learn and grow. So I’m happy about those experiences now. They’re painful in the moment, but now I see myself as a brave warrior princess who keeps going no matter what, and who has learned to cherish the things that matter in life, which is finding my own happiness first and then being able to share that with not just people in my life but with the world.”
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