The Greatest Love: 4 Ways to Feel Good About YOU

The Greatest Love: 4 Ways to Feel Good About YOU shares tips for building healthy self-esteem, starting from within.

Published February 13, 2012

Whitney Houston's "The Greatest Love of All" spoke to the great challenges that we must face in life, and the need to be strong during those challenges, whether we succeed or whether we fail. Many of us have found ourselves in situations where, for many different reasons, we lose sight of possibly the most powerful ally we have in facing our many challenges in life: ourselves. 


Of course, family and friends are essential, but establishing a healthier relationship with yourself is the foundation on which all other relationships, be it with family, friends, coworkers or romantic partners, grow from. 


To truly feel better about you, and truly celebrate your "greatest love", you need to: 


1. Believe that you're great! Get a pen and paper, sit down, and list your assets. Write down everything you know about yourself that makes you special and unique. This might include your beautiful eyes, to your different talents, your achievements and even your goals and dreams. Analyze which ones you want to improve on or develop - and then make an effort to follow through and let yourself grow as a person. 


2. Do YOU. Stop trying to be who others want you to be. Stop trying to earn love, acceptance and validation. Be the distinctive person you are. You are who you are, and it is important to know that you ARE enough. Yes, we can improve and grow, but we must allow our own uniqueness to always shine. 


3. Stop blaming yourself. Don't make other peoples thoughts, feelings or actions about YOU. Don't take responsibility (or blame yourself) for what another person may do, say or think. You are only responsible for your own thoughts, feelings, behaviors and choices, so don't let anyone tell you otherwise. 


4. Be good to yourself. Practice healthy behaviors, and do things that bring you pleasure, peace, and joy.


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Written by Violet Smith,


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