Michelle Obama Details How It Was ‘Destabilizing To Be A Box-Checker Married To A Serial Swerver’

Former US first lady Michelle Obama attends a roundtable discussion at Whitney M. Young Magnet High School in Chicago, November 12, 2018. - Former US first lady Michelle Obama's book, "Becoming," hits stores on Tuesday. Obama, 54, will head out on a multi-city arena tour to promote the memoir, with celebrity friends like Oprah Winfrey and Reese Witherspoon tapped to moderate the events. (Photo by JIM YOUNG / AFP)        (Photo credit should read JIM YOUNG/AFP/Getty Images)

Michelle Obama Details How It Was ‘Destabilizing To Be A Box-Checker Married To A Serial Swerver’

"I felt like, I need to anchor myself in who I was so I wouldn't be this woman following this man."

Published November 13th

Michelle Obama’s new memoir, “Becoming,” is proving to be even more revealing than anyone could have imagined.

During the press run for the release of her book, the former first lady teased many stories that we’ll read in the book. While talking with NPR’s “All Things Considered,” Obama opened up about how her meticulous nature was challenged by Barack Obama’s tendency to shake things up.

"Politics was never ever anything I would have chosen for myself. ... It was very difficult being married to a man that felt like politics was his destiny," Obama said.

Michelle Obama described herself as "box-checker," who kept her life in order since she was a child.

"I like order," she said. "I liked my Barbie dolls neatly kept, don't touch my stuff you know?"

Throughout her academic career, Obama kept on checking her boxes.

"Check, Princeton, I got in, good," she added. "I'm going to do well there, and then what? Ah, let me think what should I be, a lawyer." She then applied to law school, and was admitted to Harvard. "I'll go there and now I'll be a corporate lawyer, that's the next thing," Obama said, adding that she pursued a future "that was staying on the safe course," because "I couldn't afford not to."

However, everything changed when she started dating Barack, who was "a swerver."

"I'm snuggling, and I'm like, 'What's on your mind, babe?,' thinking he's going to talk about my eyes. Instead, he'll say something like 'world peace and hunger and you know, fixing the economy.' And I'm like, 'Is that what you're thinking?’” she said of a past memory.

Obama says it was "a little destabilizing to be a box-checker married to a serial swerver," and that she started questioning herself because she "could feel the force of his beliefs."

She worried that she would lose herself while dating someone who had more chaotic passions.

"I felt like, I need to anchor myself in who I was so I wouldn't be this woman following this man. I really felt that I could get caught up in his swerving, that I would just become part of his swerve rather then figuring out my own self. So, yes, it was destabilizing but it was a motivator. ... So that I didn't just become his woman, which I knew I didn't want to be,” she said.

Written by Rachel Herron

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