We Asked 18 Real Men If They Expect Sex After A Really Good Date

attends HBO's Insecure Block Party at Banc of California Stadium on July 21, 2018 in Los Angeles, California.

We Asked 18 Real Men If They Expect Sex After A Really Good Date

Insecure's "LyftBae" is sparking this necessary debate.

Published September 5, 2018

On the recent episode of Insecure, Issa went on an off-the-wall, but endearing day date with Nathan (played by actor Kendrick Sampson), who Twitter has affectionately dubbed as “LyftBae."

My quick recap:

Boy meets girl...again...at the taco truck after last being seen leaving the scene of the crime for punching a rude Lfyt passenger in Issa's honor in the season 3 premeire. Their chance meeting leads tour of Issa's old block and skinny-dipping in her childhood pool after breaking and entering during a rigged game of truth or dare. After almost getting caught, they flee seeking refuge in tacos from Issa's fave hood spot and swapping salvia while sitting on empty moving boxes in her new apartment. Aspirational, no?

But despite how unconventionally romantic the date was, or more importantly how BOMB those salmon tacos were, should Nathan have expected to get it poppin’ in the sheets with Issa after pulling off this epic date? Hmm...we'll let you decide.

When you take girl out on a date, do you expect sex?

  1. "CHEMISTRY DECIDES WHEN YOU SHOULD HAVE SEX"

    “Initially, no, sex is not an expectation. Chemistry decides when you should have sex not collateral for meal payment.” -Alex, 28

  2. “Hell YES!”

    “I expect it. Hell YES! I can hang with my friends and split check otherwise.” -Ricky, 25

  3. “ALEXIA, play ‘F**k You Tonight’ by Notorious BIG featuring R. Kelly”

    “Living in New York City is pricey. Dating here is pricey AF. So maybe not the first date, but the second one I will be yelling ‘ALEXA, play ‘F**k You Tonight’ by Notorious BIG featuring R. Kelly.' ” - JT, 25

  4. “So many factors fall into play if it will happen or not”

    “Sex should be considered a part of it, but so many factors fall into play if it will happen or not. 1,001 different things could happen to help determine if it’s going down or if it will be the last thing you want to do with this person.” -Chris, 31

  5. “The only person that you should expect sex from in exchange for any type of transaction is a prostitute”

    “I don’t think so. The only person that you should expect sex from in exchange for any type of transaction is a prostitute.  If you ask someone on a date, you should expect their undivided attention, but that’s about it. Everything else is based on chemistry.” -Cliff, 34

  6. “Issa gave it up after a taco”

    “Nah man. I would feel like I am paying for sex. Also, based on that recent episode of Insecure, if Issa gave it up after a taco, I NEED to move to LA then." -Rico, 26

  7. “Five date rule before sex”

    “I have a five date rule before sex. Of course, this would only apply when I’m actually interested in more than physical. If it’s more so just physical interest, then yeah it’s no date, but more so arranging sex. After five dates, I know where to place you in my life, and also I know how to manage my expectations.” -Joe, 30

  8. “These are called hookups, not dates”

    “Hmmm. If I am thinking about f’ing a girl off the bat, then I'm not taking her on a date. These are called hookups, not dates.” -Eddie, 22

  9. “If a woman had me break into someone home on the first date…yep”

    “I mean. Issa and guy went skinny dipping on the first date. She dared him to get naked and swim. Let us be honest here, in that case, if it was me—absolutely I am expecting sex. In that pool! If a woman had me break into someone home on the first date, get butt ass naked, and jump in a cold pool. Yep! Sex, a couple of times that date to be clear. " -Lamont, 28

  10. “Depends on the person”

    “I think it depends on the person and what they can handle." -Eric, 30

  11. “How much was that taco again?”

    “It depends. How much was that taco again? Because I may have to say 'yeah.” -Jeremy, 26 

  12. “It’s more of an expectation than not”

    “That truly depends, but I think that it’s more of an expectation than not. Like, if the date goes the right as it should then yes. If it doesn’t go right, then obviously no. If the chemistry is there, I don’t see why not.” -Al, 34

  13. “I expect the drawers”

    “After date five, I expect the drawers. Then from there if it doesn’t happen, we go dutch on meals, and you be the homie. I don’t wine and dine ‘ just friends.’ Especially to my gem spots. We can go half on Applebees as just friends and call it a day. I never had the time and money to be spending on a 'maybe joint'. You wanna be friends, then pull out your card too, friend.” -Ramond, 31

  14. “It’s never an expectation in exchange for a date”

    “For me, sex is never an expectation unless we’re in a relationship. If I’m taking someone out on a date, it’s just that, a date. If the opportunity presents itself and we are sexually attracted to each other, then that’s a plus, but it’s never an expectation in exchange for a date.” -Al, 26

  15. “Plot twist… some of these women be expecting it”

    “Actually no I don’t expect it! I am from the south, so we are taught to treat our women with a high level of respect if we take them out on a date. However, here is the plot twist, especially living in LA, some of these women be expecting it! When I take women out, I am not taking them to a damn taco stand. It’s usually some next level sh*t that gets them all excited.  So after the date, they want to get it in, sadly some do it with hopes of a come up from another pro athlete. “ - DJ, 27

  16. “Guys who said no are being modest”

    “I think it’s expected, even if it's not the FIRST date. Almost like this is an investment of time and money. So yeah, she needs to give it up. Guys who said no are being modest. In 2018, due to like social media and all these dating apps, by the time we went on a date in most cases she already has sent me all these sexy pics and texts talking about what she wants to do. So yeah, I am a going to expect it. Being 100!” -Shannon, 26

  17. “Why would you expect the most intimate of human interactions off rip?”

    “Sex is definitely not an expectation. Because this could be the first interaction between the two of you why would you expect the most intimate of human interactions off rip? I respect women, but I will take the box if they wanna throw it. Just not expecting it because I took them on a date.” -Luis, 25

  18. “Its a 90% chance she won’t hear form me after that”

    “No. If I ask you out on a date, more than likely I’m interested in knowing more about you. If we have sex during the first or second date, its a 90% chance she won’t hear form me after that. Of she do, I probably won’t take her seriously.” -Damion, 30

Written by Maurice Marcel

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