Commentary: What Chris Brown Can Teach You About Saying Sorry

Chris Brown and Karrueche Tran

Commentary: What Chris Brown Can Teach You About Saying Sorry

One thing the singer got right in his latest love escapades.

Published December 11, 2014

It is not the first time, and chances are it won’t be the last, but over the past week Chris Brown has been using the Internet for what should be a private conversation. We already know his routine: The singer gets mad and he doesn’t make a phone call, he makes a status update. Most recently everyone watched and read in real time as he went crazy on Karrueche Tran, his on-again, off-again girlfriend. He let it all out in this, the gospel according to a newly single Chris Brown.

"We've got scars, some of them u gave me, some of them I've caused," he wrote. "That ride or die act we have been fooling the world with obviously ain't working. I was locked up for damn near 4 months and only got 1 visit from you while u was hosting parties and taking secret trips to Toronto, going on dates with Drake!"

(Oh, Drake. And, even more, oh, Chris.)

No one needs an article or a reminder to emphasize that this is bad behavior. Common sense tells us that when you want to tell everyone in the entire World Wide Web that someone is a terrible person who does horrible things, it is time to call a friend, punch a pillow, scream alone in the house. But let’s say you slipped into a Twitter or Instagram overshare and went for broke online. There’s help and, unexpectedly, Brown is the one who can show you the way to social media salvation.

You messed up, you aired your dirty laundry online, all that’s left to do is apologize. Online, where everyone can see that you are a silly person who needs to control your temper. This is what Brown did when after his online breakdown, he posted, ”Being young and dumb is one of my strong suits and [I am] emotional at best. I love hard and react impulsively when I'm hurt at times. I don't think social media is a place to air out or hash out personal problems. So I AM APOLOGIZING.”

Read that last line again. He is apologizing, in all caps, because that’s how terrible what he did was. The point isn’t for her to read that and take him back — that’s their business. Who knows what is next in the Brown-Tran saga? The point is that if you brought the rest of the world in when you decided to disrespect someone, that person deserves for the rest of the world to see how (and why) you are sorry. Saying you are an a** is tough work, and it’s even harder when millions of people are watching. All caps is just one option, though staying offline and keeping your private life private is probably the best.

(Photo: Imeh Akpanudosen/Getty Images for H&M)

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Written by Ayana Byrd


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