Commentary: Is Being More Successful Than Bae a Setup for Disaster?

Nicki Minaj, Meek Mill

Commentary: Is Being More Successful Than Bae a Setup for Disaster?

There's a thin line between more money and maturity.

Published July 29, 2015

This whole Meek Mill-Drake beef has got me thinking if being seemingly more “successful” than your man is something that just won’t work in a relationship. In “Back to Back” Drizzy raps: “Shout out to all the boss b*****s wifing n****s.” He is referencing Meek’s relationship with rap queen Nicki Minaj. As a woman, this verse poses the question: Does being a “boss” mean you can’t be in a relationship with a guy who hasn’t quite reached your boss status?

The sad truth is, unless this guy is super mature about it, it will slowly eat away at his ego. It takes a man who’s extremely secure in himself to roll with a lady who is getting recognition (and money) for doing her thing. It may not be you chipping away at his dignity, but outsiders will — like his boys and society. This is one of those situations where, if you listen to what other people have to say, you will be miserable.

Here's the thing many people just don't understand: being a “boss” is more than status. It's status and a state of mind. Sure, being a boss lady is great, but if you have a man who is the complete package, supports you, is completely secure with himself and thinks like a “boss,” then it shouldn’t be a deal-breaker for either of you. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate him and that he shouldn’t have to worry about your love for him and those haters. But don’t overdo it, though. You shouldn’t have to excessively remind your man about your feelings for him so he can feel better about his situation.

If he can’t handle the critics, then he’s not the one for you. So I don’t think it’s levels of monetary success that actually count here. I think you should be asking yourself if your man is mature enough to handle your success. Period. And when it comes to Meek and Nicki — best of luck to them.

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Written by Jazmine A. Ortiz


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