Adrienne Bailon announced that she and Roc Nation exec Lenny Santiago are ending their engagement and relationship after six years together, and surprisingly she’s OK with that. And we are, too.
The former couple got engaged earlier this year and Adrienne gushed about her ex-fiancé, more than a few times (OK, a LOT) on the show. He proposed in quite a romantic fashion by first presenting her with four actual carrots before whipping out a four-carat stunner. So what happened? Adrienne explained on her show The Real in a very eloquent and honest way that she had to stay true to herself and here’s the lesson.
“Right now I am taking time for myself and I'm glad to be back at work with my favorite ladies and the incredible crew of The Real. Life lessons are hard but I'm grateful that I have a platform to share my journey and hopefully encourage, inspire or just let women know they are not alone and to never give up on finding love. I still believe. I feel so blessed and excited for the new season of The Real and I truly appreciate the support from everyone!”
It’s extremely raw and very real to open up to the public about everything that went down. I applaud her for this. Often women find themselves in a similar situation and would rather continue with the nuptials in fear of embarrassment and shame rather than just call things off. Recently, I heard a friend of my mom’s tell a similar tale of her marriage that eventually ended up in divorce. She got engaged at a young age and had doubts throughout the planning process, but kept them to herself thinking they’d disappear. Even moments before her walk down the aisle she was still second guessing the union. She told her mom about her cold feet and the mother-of-the-bride looked around at the church and the guests and told her daughter to brush it off. Everything was paid for, everyone was there and there was no turning back.
Thank you, Adrienne, for reminding us that this is OUR life. A wedding is one day and marriage is (hopefully) a lifetime. Don’t waste time worrying about what others think. If you have even an ounce of doubt about something or someone, listen to that gut feeling. Your gut will never steer you wrong. Although I’m not married myself, this important lesson that I’ve learned can be applied to any area of life.
A lot can be learned from the way Adrienne handled herself. She didn’t wait to call off her wedding right before her ceremony. The Real co-host spent the summer in Paris embarking on an Eat, Pray, Love type of self-journey. I love the concept. I’m sure she put a lot of thought into her impending marriage and ultimately decided it wasn’t in her heart. How could you not respect someone with the courage to say no to something that would make them anything less than happy? Bottom line, protect your happy, B*girls.
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