There is something to be said when a Black woman is fed up with nonsense. Something really does click in our heads when we are exhausted with being mistreated and disrespected, both publicly and privately.
There is no Ms. Nice Gal and there is no turning the other cheek. We have entered full force “I’m not the one” slay mode.
While Beyoncé is doing that with her more militant song “Formation,” letting all her haters know that you gonna leave my baby, my man and my Blackness alone, Ciara is slaying on another level — suing her baby daddy and ex-fiancé Future for coming out of his mouth too much.
Apparently, she is suing Future for $15 million for slander and libel. (No shade, I didn’t even know he had that much money.) Her suit also includes forcing him to delete all of his tweets about her and him being barred from talking about their family issues in public.
And really, who can blame her?
Since her very public break-up with her ex-fiancé and her very public coupling with Seattle Seahawks QB Russell Wilson, Future has grown increasingly volatile, cowardly using his Twitter fingers and media interviews to publicly embarrass the “Goodies” singer.
Most notably, after pictures surfaced of Wilson pushing her son in a stroller, Future said in an interview last year, “She probably set him [Russell] up. You letting them catch that photo. Leave my son out of all the publicity stunts.”
Now, I’m not sure which straw broke the camel’s back, but perhaps it was Future’s Twitter rant last month where he wrote: “This b***h got control problems ... I gotta go through lawyers to see baby future ... the f**kery for 15k a month.”
So if you paid $1,000 in child support a month, you would be OK with how things are? Boy, bye.
And I do empathize with not feeling that 19 visits since December 2014, according to Ciara, are enough. And I’m also not here to question a man’s love for his child, but I do wonder if he “fights” this hard for his other children from multiple women? Or is something else at play, like him being salty that she is not worried about him anymore?
We all know that male fragility is real and weak.
And sadly, he isn’t alone. This is type of behavior is an ongoing trend. Whether it's Kanye West, 50 Cent, David Justice’s irrelevant self or a regular joe, dudes have taken to Twitter to troll, embarrass and even slut shame their exes. And for what? To get strangers to see their side of the story?
And as I’ve said before, women are not exempt from clapping all the way back on social media, Amber Rose included, and it’s not OK, but there is something to be said about the fact that when men come for women it carries more weight about how we perceive women. And that just isn’t fair.
Whether or not Ciara has a real case — and I’m not sure she does — is still unclear. (In the meantime, Future maintains that he is wholly unbothered by the situation.) Either way, I am here for the precedent being set. Perhaps her legal repercussions will make more men think twice before they get caught up in their feelings and take to social media to come for the same women they once loved, cherished, and in some cases, procreated with.
If not, fine. You can either pay up or shut up. Or even better: Both.
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