Commentary: Do Black Men Love Her or Love Her Not?

(Photo: People Magazine; June 1, 2015)

Commentary: Do Black Men Love Her or Love Her Not?

Model Tess Holliday was up to some crazy talk recently.

Published June 11, 2015

Nearly a decade ago, a young Lindsay Lohan gave an interview to Elle magazine. This was pre-rehab, pre-jail Lindsay, meaning the world was not yet accustomed to her special brand of crazy. Which explains why everyone — or at least everyone Black — was not happy when she mentioned how she had been partying with 50 Cent and G-Unit (not shocking) and how “Black men love me.” WatchutalkinboutLindsay?

Of all of the celebs you might want to take after in the media, Lindsay Lohan is not it. So white plus-sized model Tess Holliday, who recently graced the cover of People magazine, should have maybe thought again before she declared how Black men can’t get enough of her.


While being interviewed at an outdoor café by a reporter for The Guardian, Holliday was catcalled by a Black man who walked by. It prompted her to say: “I do admit that black men love me. I always forget that, and then I come to a black neighborhood and I remember.”

Since no one interviewed this man, we do not know if he could be one of those men who wants to give a “pssst pssst” to every breathing thing with a vagina within earshot. Also, we do not know if perhaps he does not love women like Holliday — he might just love the sound of his own voice saying something obnoxious and sexist.

What we do know is that Holliday could do well to get a little more media training. Then she would learn that sweeping generalizations of entire demographics of people is something to avoid when talking to the press.

Or else, maybe Black men do like her. But they also like skinny Gwyneth Paltrow. And Black Halle Berry. And Colombian Sofia Vergara. Countless men would claim to like anyone who was just on the cover of a magazine. It’s part of the nature of celebrity culture.

Holliday might want to have a few conversations with Black women, who would likely tell her that Black men love them, too. Then she should find a few skinny white women types who might also report that they have been favorably approached by Black men. She could also find some Asian and Latina ladies who have been the recipients of Black male attention. In that way, Holliday could learn that Black men are many, many people with many, many tastes. And that she might not be as special as she believes.

All in all, she should do whatever she needs to in order to realize that if a Black man catcalls you — even if 20 Black men catcall you — you cannot build an entire sociological phenomena around it. Once she realizes that — and apparently she is learning as days after The Guardian story broke she issued an apology for any offense her "flippant" remark may have caused — the rest of us will be spared from ever having to hear her pull a Lindsay Lohan again.

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(Photo: People Magazine; June 1, 2015)

Written by Ayana Byrd


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