Meagan Good and husband DeVon Franklin visited Morehouse College over the weekend for Walmart's "Black Love and Relationships" panel discussion along with Bishop Paul S. Morton and his wife, Pastor Debra Morton. The four addressed love in the African-American community and doled out advice on marriage and finding a partner.
"For me, one of the biggest things was working on myself first before I was actually working at marriage," Good said. "Really seeing the areas where I was damaged; the areas where I was struggling; really seeking a marriage with God first. And once I did, that started to kind of clean up my life in certain areas. That's when I started to get confirmation that marriage was coming and I started to get direct confirmation about even who my husband was…I think at that point that's when God will give you clarity even if it's years down the line. There's things that have to happen before [marriage] can happen, so focus on those things first."
Good married Franklin in June 2012 and the two spiritual lovebirds seem to be enjoying the newlywed life. The Seventh-day Adventist preacher told the men in the audience to not be afraid of commitment and embrace the changes that will happen when they settle down with the right person.
"I would say on the male side, part of it is being open to the challenge of commitment. Dating to a certain degree is easy," he said. "You can just hide. You can date a number of people and never really get serious. You can run for so long, but it does take courage to say I'm not going to run anymore. I'm going to commit. And also in that commitment, as a man, it really helps you to become full because so much of what we need to do as men is really tied up in the partner God brings us. I can tell you my life in eight months has changed drastically for the better. The marriage is amazing when you have the right partner as a man."
"So in terms of dating, I would just say date less and be more intentional in your dating. Doesn't mean everybody you're gonna date, you're gonna marry. But really actually be serious about that person. My boys, who aren't married, date for sport and treat these women like possessions… If you're not serious, be honest and say 'I'm not serious. So if you wanna hang with me, just know that you're getting the not serious brother right now.' Be honest… The other side with women, you gotta really allow love to come to you in the way God has it for you. And this is hard because sometimes [you say,] 'I want him to look like this and he's gotta be that' and all of these things. But listen. I told everybody I would never date an actress. It would never happen. And I married one because I was open to God's plan for my life.…"
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