10 Men You Shouldn’t Attempt to Marry

Because some guys are just boyfriend material.

Red Flag - That dude you’re seeing might be OK boyfriend material, but if getting married is your thing, there are some men who you should not exchange vows with. Read on to learn who you should avoid. By Kenrya Rankin (Photo: Hill Street Studios/Blend Images/Corbis)

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Red Flag - That dude you’re seeing might be OK boyfriend material, but if getting married is your thing, there are some men who you should not exchange vows with. Read on to learn who you should avoid. By Kenrya Rankin (Photo: Hill Street Studios/Blend Images/Corbis)

The One You Think You Can Change - Whether you think he’s slightly dumb or wish he had a better paying job or want him to lose weight, settling down with a dude you don’t quite feel it for but think you can transform into a better version of himself is a setup. So much of marriage is about accepting and loving your partner unconditionally, and if you come in with a list of things you don’t love, you will always feel like you made the wrong choice.(Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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The One You Think You Can Change - Whether you think he’s slightly dumb or wish he had a better paying job or want him to lose weight, settling down with a dude you don’t quite feel it for but think you can transform into a better version of himself is a setup. So much of marriage is about accepting and loving your partner unconditionally, and if you come in with a list of things you don’t love, you will always feel like you made the wrong choice.(Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

The One Who Likes to Control You - From telling you how to wear your hair to criticizing your cooking skills to shutting you down when you offer an opinion, men who think it’s their job to run your life often turn into partners who think nothing of putting their hands on you when you attempt to go your own way. Steer clear.(Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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The One Who Likes to Control You - From telling you how to wear your hair to criticizing your cooking skills to shutting you down when you offer an opinion, men who think it’s their job to run your life often turn into partners who think nothing of putting their hands on you when you attempt to go your own way. Steer clear.(Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

The Always Unhappy One - Eventually, you will both learn the hard way that waiting on someone else to make you happy is a fool’s mission. Don't tie yourself to someone who is unhappy with himself. If he counts on his relationship with you to solve all his problems, his ire will be directed at you when they don’t magically disappear as you drive to the airport for your honeymoon. (Photo: JGI/Tom Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

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The Always Unhappy One - Eventually, you will both learn the hard way that waiting on someone else to make you happy is a fool’s mission. Don't tie yourself to someone who is unhappy with himself. If he counts on his relationship with you to solve all his problems, his ire will be directed at you when they don’t magically disappear as you drive to the airport for your honeymoon. (Photo: JGI/Tom Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

The One Who Likes to Lie - It starts with little things, like his exact job title or how much he spent on his shoes. But for the man who thinks nothing of bending the truth, those little lies almost always turn into massive ones of the “lying about who you were with” variety. And trust and believe you don’t want to be married to someone who thinks nothing of lying to your face.(Photo: Corbis)

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The One Who Likes to Lie - It starts with little things, like his exact job title or how much he spent on his shoes. But for the man who thinks nothing of bending the truth, those little lies almost always turn into massive ones of the “lying about who you were with” variety. And trust and believe you don’t want to be married to someone who thinks nothing of lying to your face.(Photo: Corbis)

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The One Who Consistently Chooses Work Over You - Marriage doesn’t change people or situations, it only amplifies them. So if you don’t feel like you get enough of his attention now, imagine what it will feel when you’re married, juggling your career and your family, struggling to find time for self-care — and he’s at work. (Photo: Blend Images/Corbis)

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The One Who Consistently Chooses Work Over You - Marriage doesn’t change people or situations, it only amplifies them. So if you don’t feel like you get enough of his attention now, imagine what it will feel when you’re married, juggling your career and your family, struggling to find time for self-care — and he’s at work. (Photo: Blend Images/Corbis)

The One Who Thinks Men Aren't Meant to Be With One Woman - There is nothing wrong with crafting the relationship that works for you and your partner(s). But if you are envisioning the two of you growing old together and he is buying you books on polygamy and talking about how another wife would help y’all get back to the ancestors’ way of life, keep it moving. That only ends one way: badly.  (Photo: Ned Frisk/Blend Images/Corbis)

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The One Who Thinks Men Aren't Meant to Be With One Woman - There is nothing wrong with crafting the relationship that works for you and your partner(s). But if you are envisioning the two of you growing old together and he is buying you books on polygamy and talking about how another wife would help y’all get back to the ancestors’ way of life, keep it moving. That only ends one way: badly.  (Photo: Ned Frisk/Blend Images/Corbis)

The One Without a Plan - There is nothing wrong with a dreamer. In fact, a man with a huge goal who is willing to put in the work to reach it can be an amazing partner. But that cat who has a million “ideas” that never go anywhere because he lacks the ambition and drive to pursue them can spell trouble in a relationship with a self-possessed woman. When his make-it-big schemes (and excuses for not attending to them) pile up while he plays video games and you bust your tail to make ends meet, resentment will soon take up residence in your home. Don’t do it to yourself. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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The One Without a Plan - There is nothing wrong with a dreamer. In fact, a man with a huge goal who is willing to put in the work to reach it can be an amazing partner. But that cat who has a million “ideas” that never go anywhere because he lacks the ambition and drive to pursue them can spell trouble in a relationship with a self-possessed woman. When his make-it-big schemes (and excuses for not attending to them) pile up while he plays video games and you bust your tail to make ends meet, resentment will soon take up residence in your home. Don’t do it to yourself. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

The One Who Is Clearly Still In Love With His Ex - Does this really need an explanation? You shouldn’t want to be a placeholder for someone he used to know. At best, you never quite feel like you have his whole heart. At worst, you catch them in your bed. Get out now.  (Photo: Gabriela Medina/Blend Images/Corbis)

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The One Who Is Clearly Still In Love With His Ex - Does this really need an explanation? You shouldn’t want to be a placeholder for someone he used to know. At best, you never quite feel like you have his whole heart. At worst, you catch them in your bed. Get out now.  (Photo: Gabriela Medina/Blend Images/Corbis)

The One Who Only Wants to Netflix and Chill - Listen. If that man told you that he’s not interested in a relationship and just wants to get it in on your couch, believe him. Have fun if you’re down, and don’t try to turn him into your husband. It doesn’t matter what you do to show him you are “wifey material,” because it’s not about you, it’s about where he is in his life. Trying to lock this man down will only leave you heartbroken and feeling like you wasted your time.  (Photo: Monkey Business Images/Monkey Business/Corbis)

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The One Who Only Wants to Netflix and Chill - Listen. If that man told you that he’s not interested in a relationship and just wants to get it in on your couch, believe him. Have fun if you’re down, and don’t try to turn him into your husband. It doesn’t matter what you do to show him you are “wifey material,” because it’s not about you, it’s about where he is in his life. Trying to lock this man down will only leave you heartbroken and feeling like you wasted your time.  (Photo: Monkey Business Images/Monkey Business/Corbis)

The One Who Is an Unrepentant Addict - This dude can’t get enough drank or weed or food or porn or something that keeps him from being great. And he’s not the type who has admitted he has a problem and actively seeks help. No, he’s the one who denies anything is wrong and pushes away the folks who love him. Steer clear of this man: You can’t save folks who don’t want to be saved.  (Photo: Masterfile/ Corbis)

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The One Who Is an Unrepentant Addict - This dude can’t get enough drank or weed or food or porn or something that keeps him from being great. And he’s not the type who has admitted he has a problem and actively seeks help. No, he’s the one who denies anything is wrong and pushes away the folks who love him. Steer clear of this man: You can’t save folks who don’t want to be saved.  (Photo: Masterfile/ Corbis)