Check Yourself, Boo! Why He’s Not the Problem – You Are

Your ish can stink too, girlfriend.

Newsflash: You Are Not Perfect - We know, hearing this news is a jagged pill to swallow, but girl, the reason he packed up his things and exited left may be because of you. Are you playing a factor in your relationship’s demise? Find out. By Kellee Terrell(Photo: Christopher Weidlich/Corbis)

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Newsflash: You Are Not Perfect - We know, hearing this news is a jagged pill to swallow, but girl, the reason he packed up his things and exited left may be because of you. Are you playing a factor in your relationship’s demise? Find out. By Kellee Terrell(Photo: Christopher Weidlich/Corbis)

You Make Him Pay for Your Ex’s Mistakes - Your ex was a serious jerk and broke you down — and that’s awful. But instead of getting closure and screaming at him, you’ve taken all of that baggage into you and your new guy's situation. Stop projecting that old stuff on him and really give him an opportunity to show you who he is. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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You Make Him Pay for Your Ex’s Mistakes - Your ex was a serious jerk and broke you down — and that’s awful. But instead of getting closure and screaming at him, you’ve taken all of that baggage into you and your new guy's situation. Stop projecting that old stuff on him and really give him an opportunity to show you who he is. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

You’re Constantly Accusing Him of Cheating - He may not even be cheating or perhaps you are and are doing some transference nonsense, whatever the case, no one wants to be accused of being unfaithful all the damn time. If you really think he’s cheating, then throw the deuces and get out. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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You’re Constantly Accusing Him of Cheating - He may not even be cheating or perhaps you are and are doing some transference nonsense, whatever the case, no one wants to be accused of being unfaithful all the damn time. If you really think he’s cheating, then throw the deuces and get out. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

You Don’t Fight Fair - Of course it’s important to be open and honest about your issues with your relationship and sometimes that will lead to an argument. Just leave the crazy talk at the door. No more name calling and trash talking. No one wants to be with someone who is immature and likes to be disrespectful. (Photo: Wavebreak Media Ltd/Veer/Corbis)

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You Don’t Fight Fair - Of course it’s important to be open and honest about your issues with your relationship and sometimes that will lead to an argument. Just leave the crazy talk at the door. No more name calling and trash talking. No one wants to be with someone who is immature and likes to be disrespectful. (Photo: Wavebreak Media Ltd/Veer/Corbis)

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You Play Way Too Many Games - Girl, you keep being a Mary Jane cliché. You take days to respond to texts, act uninterested or make it seem like you’re seeing other people so he doesn’t think you’re pressed. Hey, we get it, you don’t have to put all of your cards on the table, but you don’t have to play all these games. No one has time for all that.  (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

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You Play Way Too Many Games - Girl, you keep being a Mary Jane cliché. You take days to respond to texts, act uninterested or make it seem like you’re seeing other people so he doesn’t think you’re pressed. Hey, we get it, you don’t have to put all of your cards on the table, but you don’t have to play all these games. No one has time for all that.  (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

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You’re Mad Selfish - Yes, we get it — you’re a queen. Reminder: it takes two. You have to take their needs and wants into consideration to make it work. It can’t just be about you and what you want. He matters, too, and if you don’t recognize, trust, he will find someone who does.(Photo: Honey & Mehta/Corbis)

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You’re Mad Selfish - Yes, we get it — you’re a queen. Reminder: it takes two. You have to take their needs and wants into consideration to make it work. It can’t just be about you and what you want. He matters, too, and if you don’t recognize, trust, he will find someone who does.(Photo: Honey & Mehta/Corbis)

You’re Doing Too Much, Too Soon - It’s date three and you’re already looking at wedding rings. Gurl, bye — you're scaring him. You have to SLOW DOWN! Your desperation is a huge turnoff. Allow things to progress organically so you can see if he is actually the best man for you. 

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You’re Doing Too Much, Too Soon - It’s date three and you’re already looking at wedding rings. Gurl, bye — you're scaring him. You have to SLOW DOWN! Your desperation is a huge turnoff. Allow things to progress organically so you can see if he is actually the best man for you. 

You’re Not Authentic - No doubt, we live in a world that makes us present this false representative of ourselves every day. But you gotta learn to turn that off, because if you are always fake, materialistic and inauthentic, no one worthy will put up with that. Contrary to what you may think, a good guy really does want someone who is real. (Photo: 2/Ocean/Corbis)

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You’re Not Authentic - No doubt, we live in a world that makes us present this false representative of ourselves every day. But you gotta learn to turn that off, because if you are always fake, materialistic and inauthentic, no one worthy will put up with that. Contrary to what you may think, a good guy really does want someone who is real. (Photo: 2/Ocean/Corbis)

You Rub His Friends the Wrong Way - Most men care what their buddies think, thus getting the homies to like you can be important. If you are always acting a fool around them, being extra, cutting your boo down or not respecting his friend time, you can kiss that man goodbye. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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You Rub His Friends the Wrong Way - Most men care what their buddies think, thus getting the homies to like you can be important. If you are always acting a fool around them, being extra, cutting your boo down or not respecting his friend time, you can kiss that man goodbye. (Photo: Wavebreak Media LTD/Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

You’re Rude to His Family - If you go over to his mama’s house acting like you’re better than everyone, barely speak or get mad when he wants to put in that family QT, you won’t last very long in his life. You must treat your potential in-laws with respect if you want him to stick around. (Photo: Corbis)

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You’re Rude to His Family - If you go over to his mama’s house acting like you’re better than everyone, barely speak or get mad when he wants to put in that family QT, you won’t last very long in his life. You must treat your potential in-laws with respect if you want him to stick around. (Photo: Corbis)

You’re Kind of Unstable - You are constantly snapping at him for no reason, your emotions are all over the place, you post the weirdest memes on social media to try and make him jealous, you feel sorry for yourself, sad and depressed, and now he thinks something's really wrong with you. Perhaps you should fall back and be honest with yourself. You may have some deeper underlying issues that you need to work on before you start dating seriously. (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

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You’re Kind of Unstable - You are constantly snapping at him for no reason, your emotions are all over the place, you post the weirdest memes on social media to try and make him jealous, you feel sorry for yourself, sad and depressed, and now he thinks something's really wrong with you. Perhaps you should fall back and be honest with yourself. You may have some deeper underlying issues that you need to work on before you start dating seriously. (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)