Balancing Your Boo and Your Friends

You don't have to choose between the two.

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Balancing Act - When you get a man, do you fall off the face of the earth? We can't lie, when we get a boo-thang, on average we end up losing contact with a friend or two. How can you make sure that doesn’t happen to you? Read these tips on how to keep things going strong with your man and your friends. By Kellee Terrell

1. Take a Cuddle Break - Most likely, the drive will be tiresome on both of you, no matter who's driving the most. As you pass through some cool destinations, it wouldn't hurt to take a cuddle break. Plus, it'll help you all remember why you made the trip in the first place. (Photo: Hero Images/Getty Images)

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Don’t Lose Yourself in Your Relationship - Yes, spending time with your boo is very important in order to build and maintain a lasting relationship. But don’t let that stop you from being who you were before — a good friend, responsible, dependable, etc. A good guy makes you better, not worse. (Photo: Hero Images/Getty Images)

Be Clear About Your Priorities - It’s important to let your man know that your friends are an important part of your life and vice-versa. You don’t have to talk about it all the time or obsess about it, but just express how happy and lucky you are to have these people in your life and how spending time means a lot to you. (Photo: Zack Seckler/Corbis)

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Be Clear About Your Priorities - It’s important to let your man know that your friends are an important part of your life and vice-versa. You don’t have to talk about it all the time or obsess about it, but just express how happy and lucky you are to have these people in your life and how spending time means a lot to you. (Photo: Zack Seckler/Corbis)

Don't Take It Personal - Being in a toxic relationship or friendship can take a major toll on us — mentally, physically and emotionally. It can also cause us to feel a sense of regret and disappointment within ourselves, but try not to wallow in resentment or anger. (Photo: Nancy Ney/Corbis)

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Manage Your Time Better - Make a schedule of the days you spend with your friends and your boo. Perhaps Friday nights are for your girls and Saturday and Sunday morning with your man. Also there is something to be said about not spending every waking moment up under your man — distance does make the heart grow fonder. (Photo: Nancy Ney/Corbis)

Don't Forget to Still Be There for Your Friends - Having a man doesn’t make you exempt from being a good friend to your girls. Make sure that you are still their shoulder to cry on and voice of reason. (Photo: Peathegee Inc/Blend Images/Corbis)

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Don't Forget to Still Be There for Your Friends - Having a man doesn’t make you exempt from being a good friend to your girls. Make sure that you are still their shoulder to cry on and voice of reason. (Photo: Peathegee Inc/Blend Images/Corbis)

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Live in the Moment With Who You’re With - When you are brunching with your girls, make sure to not be on the phone texting with your man, constantly checking in with him or talking about him all the time. You are with your girls, so enjoy them. Hit your boo up later. (Photo: Jutta Klee/Corbis)

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Live in the Moment With Who You’re With - When you are brunching with your girls, make sure to not be on the phone texting with your man, constantly checking in with him or talking about him all the time. You are with your girls, so enjoy them. Hit your boo up later. (Photo: Jutta Klee/Corbis)

Everybody's NOT Doing It - As your friends start dating and experiencing things you only gossiped about during sleepovers, it can seem like everyone’s having sex and you’re the unfortunate girl that’s falling behind. The truth is, there is no time limit on how long you can wait, and not everyone is having sex — just look at Keke Palmer and Teyana Taylor.(Photo: Brooke Fasani Auchincloss/Corbis)

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Blend Your People Together - It’s important for everyone to hang together at some point. Having your boo and your friends meet can be a great way to break the ice and for them to interact with each other. They may or may not mesh — and that’s OK, too, but at least you made the effort. (Photo: Brooke Fasani Auchincloss/Corbis)

Admit Your Faults - Look, sometimes you can be part of the problem, too. Remember: You are not perfect either. Ask your partner what they need from you. It’s up to you if you are willing to compromise, but you have to make an effort and you have to be open to change. (Photo: John Henley/Getty Images)

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Say No to Guilt Trips - Does he make you feel bad because you want to see your friends? Are your girls acting up because you have a man? Don’t let people make you feel bad for wanting to have it all. (Photo: John Henley/Getty Images)

Set Rules Together - Your room is not a dictatorship. Sit down together and work out rules that you can both live by. Be sure to cover topics such as cleaning (How often will you sweep and who will do it?), visitors (Can dates spend the night?), noise (What time must the music go off?) and sharing (Can you use her nail polish without asking?).  (Photo: Peathegee Inc/Getty Images)

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He May Leave, But Friends Are Forever - Boyfriends will come and go, but your girls will last forever. Please keep that in mind when you constantly put your man first before them. (Photo: Peathegee Inc/Getty Images)