#StayWoke: Nine Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Commit

Before you take the leap, have this honest conversation.

Enjoy Yourself, But Know Your Limit - We understand you're a grown woman and sometimes getting back into the swing of things is so exciting that we all forget to take special care of ourselves. Have fun, but understand that you've still got things to do. Remember to take care of you as well.(Photo: Don Mason/Corbis)

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Are You Being Honest With Yourself? - You just started dating a new guy and you want to take the next step. Awesome. But is he Mr. Right? Does he trash his ex on social media like Future does Ciara? Does he talk crazy to his mother? Here are some questions to ask yourself before you go there.  By Kellee Terrell(Photo: Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

How Does He Treat the Women in His Life? - If he talks to his mother or sisters like something stuck to the bottom of his shoe, why would you be any different? Also think about how he talks about women in general, especially those in pop culture. No one wants to date a sexist man, and if you do, proceed with caution. (Photo: Kevin Dodge/Blend Images/Corbis)

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How Does He Treat the Women in His Life? - If he talks to his mother or sisters like something stuck to the bottom of his shoe, why would you be any different? Also think about how he talks about women in general, especially those in pop culture. No one wants to date a sexist man, and if you do, proceed with caution. (Photo: Kevin Dodge/Blend Images/Corbis)

Does He Roast Exes on Social Media? - How a man treats his ex is exactly how he is going to treat you if it doesn’t work out. So if he likes to gossip about what ol’ girl didn’t do for him and has nothing but nasty and rude things to say about her, think twice about making him yours. (Photo: Patrik Giardino/Corbis)

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Does He Roast Exes on Social Media? - How a man treats his ex is exactly how he is going to treat you if it doesn’t work out. So if he likes to gossip about what ol’ girl didn’t do for him and has nothing but nasty and rude things to say about her, think twice about making him yours. (Photo: Patrik Giardino/Corbis)

Does He Have Dreams and Desires? - Yeah, he may want to be a rapper and that’s fine, but what else does he want for himself if that falls through? Does he want to finish school, be the boss or get his certification? Having a man that sees that life is bigger than the present is incredibly important, as is making sure those dreams and desires are compatible with your own.(Photo: Hill Street Studios/Blend Images/Corbis)

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Does He Have Dreams and Desires? - Yeah, he may want to be a rapper and that’s fine, but what else does he want for himself if that falls through? Does he want to finish school, be the boss or get his certification? Having a man that sees that life is bigger than the present is incredibly important, as is making sure those dreams and desires are compatible with your own.(Photo: Hill Street Studios/Blend Images/Corbis)

Are You Attracted to His Character? - Look: If your Bae is fine, more power to you. But is your attraction just about his exterior? Before you take it to the next level, ask yourself if you’re being blinded by his looks or how good the sex is. How big is his heart? How smart is he? What kind of person is he? All of that transcends looks in the end. (Photo: Monkey Business Images/Corbis)

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Are You Attracted to His Character? - Look: If your Bae is fine, more power to you. But is your attraction just about his exterior? Before you take it to the next level, ask yourself if you’re being blinded by his looks or how good the sex is. How big is his heart? How smart is he? What kind of person is he? All of that transcends looks in the end. (Photo: Monkey Business Images/Corbis)

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Does He Appreciate You for Who You Are Right Now? - While he should make you want to be better, his love shouldn’t be based on these contingents of you being someone “better.” If you’re holding on because you think he will be better when you lose 25 pounds or get a raise or get more organized, Jenny, you in danger, girl. (Photo: Hero Images/Corbis)

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Does He Appreciate You for Who You Are Right Now? - While he should make you want to be better, his love shouldn’t be based on these contingents of you being someone “better.” If you’re holding on because you think he will be better when you lose 25 pounds or get a raise or get more organized, Jenny, you in danger, girl. (Photo: Hero Images/Corbis)

Does He Make You Better? - While accepting you for who you are is key to being in a relationship, he should make you want to be a better person, too. More present, more on top of your credit, more attentive, more loving, more inspiring. If yes, then you found a keeper.(Photo: Patrik Giardino/Corbis)

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Does He Make You Better? - While accepting you for who you are is key to being in a relationship, he should make you want to be a better person, too. More present, more on top of your credit, more attentive, more loving, more inspiring. If yes, then you found a keeper.(Photo: Patrik Giardino/Corbis)

Does He Make You a Priority in His Life? - While it’s not always possible to be number one all the time, it is important that you are way up top of his list. If you find that you are coming in last and that he treats you like an afterthought, why do you think it will get better when you two get more serious? (Photo: Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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Does He Make You a Priority in His Life? - While it’s not always possible to be number one all the time, it is important that you are way up top of his list. If you find that you are coming in last and that he treats you like an afterthought, why do you think it will get better when you two get more serious? (Photo: Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

Are You Sexually Compatible? - So the flip side of his character is how well y’all work together in the bedroom. If it’s awful, you might be able to fix it with open communication. But keep in mind that sex and physical attraction is an important aspect of any romantic relationship. Without it, he’s just your friend.(Photo: Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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Are You Sexually Compatible? - So the flip side of his character is how well y’all work together in the bedroom. If it’s awful, you might be able to fix it with open communication. But keep in mind that sex and physical attraction is an important aspect of any romantic relationship. Without it, he’s just your friend.(Photo: Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

Have You Healed From Your Last Relationship? - He may be great for you, but if you are going to make him pay for the mistakes of the last dude, what’s the point? Make sure you have broken free from the past to start fresh with this new, amazing man. (Photo: Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)

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Have You Healed From Your Last Relationship? - He may be great for you, but if you are going to make him pay for the mistakes of the last dude, what’s the point? Make sure you have broken free from the past to start fresh with this new, amazing man. (Photo: Wavebreak Media Ltd./Corbis)