The Pros and Cons of First Date Sex

Do it or nah? Is getting it in on date one so bad?

Or Nah? - It’s one of the rules that seem to persist no matter who is doing the advising: Don’t have sex on the first date. But why not? And what if you really want to? Here, the pros and cons of getting it in on date one. By Kenrya Rankin Naasel (Photo: Rob Melnychuk/Corbis)

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Or Nah? - It’s one of the rules that seem to persist no matter who is doing the advising: Don’t have sex on the first date. But why not? And what if you really want to? Here, the pros and cons of getting it in on date one. By Kenrya Rankin Naasel (Photo: Rob Melnychuk/Corbis)

Real Talk - You would think that for as long as people have been having sex, we would collectively have a better understanding of it. But alas, there are several myths that refuse to die. Here, we break ’em down. By Kenrya Rankin Naasel (Photo: GettyImages) 

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PRO: It Could Be Fun - It can be an exciting ride to have consensual, safe sex with someone new — you might even pick up some moves to add to your repertoire. (Photo: Getty Images)

Whip Appeal - Establishing skin-to-skin contact with your lover can unknowingly lead to a sexual response by triggering continued sessions of foreplay. Your night of sleep just instantly turned into an all-night party for two. Not only does it arouse certain hormones to help you achieve the big “O” moment; it also promotes physical and emotional intimacy with your partner.  Let’s face it; sleeping in your birthday suit is much better than wearing flannel pajamas. Wouldn’t he agree?  (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

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CON: It Could Be Terrible - The first time you have sex with someone isn’t usually movie-perfect, and if it’s extra awkward, you might be less inclined to give him a chance relationship-wise. Also, um, bad sex just sucks. (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

You Reduce Your Chance of Having Unprotected Sex - Being under the influence can lower our inhibitions and usher in riskier sexual behavior because you are not thinking as clearly. By not getting drunk, you are lowering your risk of STDs and HIV.(Photo: Adamsmith/Getty Images)

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PRO: There’s No Mystery - You don’t have to date him a few times and wonder if you’re wasting time on what might turn out to be not so great D. If you decide to go for it right away, you’ll know sooner than later if there’s no real chemistry between you. (Photo: Adamsmith/Getty Images)

Stop Sleeping With Men Who Don’t Reciprocate - 2016 is a year of not wasting your time with men who want oral sex all the time but refuse to return the favor. No one has time for that. If that’s what you need to be satisfied, then PLEASE find someone who actually cares and wants to please you.(Photo: Chat Roberts/Corbis)

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CON: There’s No Mystery - You know that whole “Will we or won’t we?” dance that drives you a little nutty, but feels great, too? Yeah, that’s done, ’cause you already did it. Anticipation is half the pleasure (right?), and you’ll be more comfortable and presumably like him more if you wait. Stretching it out can make it that much sweeter when you finally get there.  (Photo: Chat Roberts/Corbis)

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PRO: It Might Be All You Want - Let’s face it: Sometimes you just want to find someone who can roll through on the late night from time to time. Perhaps he’s the right man for the job; consider this his audition.  (Photo: 64/Ocean/Corbis)

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PRO: It Might Be All You Want - Let’s face it: Sometimes you just want to find someone who can roll through on the late night from time to time. Perhaps he’s the right man for the job; consider this his audition.  (Photo: 64/Ocean/Corbis)

CON: You Might Think He’s Out There...And Not in a Good Way - Sure, you have an open mind, but the post-date analysis might lead you to conclude that he’s a little loose and might not make the best boyfriend, if that’s what you’re after. Or he might think you’re out here giving it up “too easily.” Either way, assumptions could end your chances of new love. (Photo: Image Source/Corbis)

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CON: You Might Think He’s Out There...And Not in a Good Way - Sure, you have an open mind, but the post-date analysis might lead you to conclude that he’s a little loose and might not make the best boyfriend, if that’s what you’re after. Or he might think you’re out here giving it up “too easily.” Either way, assumptions could end your chances of new love. (Photo: Image Source/Corbis)

They Make You Feel Good - Breasts are also sex organs, wired directly to the same parts of the brain that light up when your love below is stimulated. Score!  (Photo: Don Mason/Blend Images/Corbis)

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PRO: It Need Not Be That Deep - Safe sex isn’t a prize that either of you need to earn; it’s a way to communicate with someone you enjoy. So commence with the body talk. (Photo: Don Mason/Blend Images/Corbis)

Admit Your Faults - Look, sometimes you can be part of the problem, too. Remember: You are not perfect either. Ask your partner what they need from you. It’s up to you if you are willing to compromise, but you have to make an effort and you have to be open to change. (Photo: John Henley/Getty Images)

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CON: Sex Can Cloud Your Mind - He might turn out to be a terrible person, but good sex has a way of making it hard to see that. Waiting a while might expose him before you can get emotionally attached.  (Photo: John Henley/Getty Images)

PRO: It Could Be an Instant Love Connection - After an evening of sparkling conversation, a night of fantastic sex, and a morning after of omelets and fresh-squeezed orange juice (hello, Love Jones!) you might find that you click both in bed and out of it. Oh, snap — you’re made for each other!  (Photo: David A Land/Blend Images/Corbis)

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PRO: It Could Be an Instant Love Connection - After an evening of sparkling conversation, a night of fantastic sex, and a morning after of omelets and fresh-squeezed orange juice (hello, Love Jones!) you might find that you click both in bed and out of it. Oh, snap — you’re made for each other!  (Photo: David A Land/Blend Images/Corbis)

Social Media Makes You Feel Bad About Yourself - Studies have shown that watching other people’s lives — celebrities and everyday people — can make you feel bad about your looks, weight, accomplishments and overall life. If this is happening to you, put the phone down and focus on you building yourself up.(Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images)

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CON: He Might Not Call - Some dudes are jerks; he might have been all about sex from the beginning. Good riddance.  (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images)

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