Pros and Cons of Breaking Up Before College

Choosing whether to stay or go can be a tough decision.

Next! - You’re headed to college and moving on to new and better things. But does that mean you should move on to a new bae? Here, the pros and cons of breaking up with your long distance significant other before you move into your dorm. By Kenrya Rankin Naasel (Photo: Kevin Dodge/Corbis)

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Next! - You’re headed to college and moving on to new and better things. But does that mean you should move on to a new bae? Here, the pros and cons of breaking up with your long distance significant other before you move into your dorm. By Kenrya Rankin Naasel (Photo: Kevin Dodge/Corbis)

PRO: There Are Lots of New Faces on Campus - Back home, you only had the pick of your high school. At college, there are so many new potential boos. And they might be way better options than your friend back home.  (Photo: Kevin Dodge/Corbis)

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PRO: There Are Lots of New Faces on Campus - Back home, you only had the pick of your high school. At college, there are so many new potential boos. And they might be way better options than your friend back home.  (Photo: Kevin Dodge/Corbis)

CON: You Already Love Each Other - It feels good to be loved, and staying with him means that you’re with someone who you’ve already put in work with. Why go through the drama of getting to know someone new? (Photo: Kevin Dodge/Corbis)

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CON: You Already Love Each Other - It feels good to be loved, and staying with him means that you’re with someone who you’ve already put in work with. Why go through the drama of getting to know someone new? (Photo: Kevin Dodge/Corbis)

PRO: You’ll Save Money - Traveling back and forth to see each other will quickly tax your budget. You could save all that money by scouting the local talent. (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

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PRO: You’ll Save Money - Traveling back and forth to see each other will quickly tax your budget. You could save all that money by scouting the local talent. (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

CON: You Won’t Have Someone to Make the Transition With You - Adjusting to campus life can be hard, especially if you’re far from home. Having someone who knows you well to hop on the phone with every evening and talk about your day can make the transition a lot easier. (Photo: Nancy Ney/Corbis)

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CON: You Won’t Have Someone to Make the Transition With You - Adjusting to campus life can be hard, especially if you’re far from home. Having someone who knows you well to hop on the phone with every evening and talk about your day can make the transition a lot easier. (Photo: Nancy Ney/Corbis)

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PRO: You’ll Skip the Emotional Baggage and Have Fun - Go to school far away from your significant other — especially if he's still in high school or opted not to go to college — and you will likely feel tugged in two directions. You could end up feeling guilty that you’re having all these fun new experiences alone or just feel really terrible every time you have to say goodbye. Cutting ties now could save you some heartbreak down the road and let you fully live in the moment now. (Photo: DreamPictures/Blend Images/Corbis)

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PRO: You’ll Skip the Emotional Baggage and Have Fun - Go to school far away from your significant other — especially if he's still in high school or opted not to go to college — and you will likely feel tugged in two directions. You could end up feeling guilty that you’re having all these fun new experiences alone or just feel really terrible every time you have to say goodbye. Cutting ties now could save you some heartbreak down the road and let you fully live in the moment now. (Photo: DreamPictures/Blend Images/Corbis)

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CON: You Could Lose a Great Partner - If you have had an honest discussion about how you expect college to impact your relationship and you’re both working toward common goals, there is a chance that you can grow together and make your relationship stronger with each passing year of undergrad. Leaving now could separate you from your best partner in crime.  (Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

PRO: You’re Going to Change a Lot - Being a college student has a way of maturing you. As you grow into the adult you are meant to be, there is a good chance you might not like the same things you liked before (and he might not either). Calling it quits helps you focus on becoming that person. Rather than keeping one foot in the past, you can turn all of your toes toward your future.  (Photo: Tim Pannell/Corbis)

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PRO: You’re Going to Change a Lot - Being a college student has a way of maturing you. As you grow into the adult you are meant to be, there is a good chance you might not like the same things you liked before (and he might not either). Calling it quits helps you focus on becoming that person. Rather than keeping one foot in the past, you can turn all of your toes toward your future.  (Photo: Tim Pannell/Corbis)

CON: You Might End Up Doing Too Much - Being in a long distance relationship can actually help you spend more time in your room focused. Rather than running the streets with your new college woes, you’ll be sitting down somewhere, talking to your boo. (Photo: Tetra Images/Corbis)

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CON: You Might End Up Doing Too Much - Being in a long distance relationship can actually help you spend more time in your room focused. Rather than running the streets with your new college woes, you’ll be sitting down somewhere, talking to your boo. (Photo: Tetra Images/Corbis)