Oh, so that’s what Doja Cat was talking about when she made the song “Ahhh Men.”

Vogue’s April cover star recently shared with the outlet’s podcast that she is “incredibly lonely” and distrusts men, sharing a candid snapshot of where her dating life and mental health sit as she continues talking openly about therapy and growth. 

“It's incredibly lonely. I'm lonely,” Doja said, mentioning that she lives away from most people in her life. “I don't want to have friends in the industry. Sometimes I try. Sometimes I'm like, well, why wouldn't I? I mean, like, I can relate to them, but it's something that I'm going to struggle with, and I've got to figure it out. I don't think it'll ever be fully figured out, but it's just something that I got to understand better in order to change things.”

She went on, “I want to be around people and I don't like to be lonely. My job is very lonely and it comes with being around people who you love. But to be fair, I mean, you are employing these people. It doesn't mean they love you any less. Doesn't mean that you love them any less. It just means that there is a barrier. And it is something that's really hard to come to terms with in certain moments.”

Doja said therapy has helped her “see through a lot of the fog,” and added, “I’m not cured of anything. But it helps me understand why I do the things that I do.” She also said she does not want to be “in a state of agony before a show,” showing that her self-improvement is tied to how she navigates her career. 

“I talk about men with my therapists a lot, and I think like I have a really big trust issue with guys… honestly [it] goes for everyone, but being vulnerable with certain people, like I tried to do it on TikTok recently and be sincere. I think sincerity is really hard for me at certain moments. And my fans can attest to that. I think a lot of people have witnessed me in moments where I'm not being sincere. And I think it only does really good things for me when I can express myself.”

In the cover story, Doja also got real about what therapy has done for her romantic life. “I love when they leave,” she said, explaining that therapy has helped her be “away and be at peace” without obsessing over answers, tarot cards, or constant texting. That shift feels especially notable for an artist whose public persona has often leaned into chaos, wit, and unpredictability. 

Doja’s Vogue cover story also places her vulnerability inside a larger creative reinvention. Doja’s fifth album, “Vie,” is described as a playful blend of 1980s R&B, pop, and funk, which allow her to adopt a public persona that matches the vibes. 

The piece also traces her internet-born rise, her agoraphobic teenage years, and her love of reinvention all shaped the artist she is now. In other words, Doja’s loneliness is not being hidden,  it is part of the story she’s telling while she rebuilds herself in public.