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10 Online Dating Dos and Don’ts for Black Singles

These tips will help you figure out how to use dating apps to find your forever person.

Navigating the online dating scene is never easy. These days, things can get super complicated really quickly, especially when you throw in different communication styles, varying expectations, and personal nuances in the mix. BET.com enlisted the expertise of Jonathan Kirkland, head of marketing and brand for BLK, the number one dating app for Black singles, to give us some insight into how to make a great first impression so that potential matches want to swipe right on your profile.

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Here are 10 tips (some do's and some don'ts) when choosing a date online that will help you on your quest to find your forever person.

  1. Do Use High-Quality Photos

    Choose clear, well-lit, and flattering photos that showcase your personality when setting up your online dating profiles. Include a mix of close-up and full-body shots to provide potential matches with a well-rounded view of your appearance.

  2. Do Write an Engaging Bio

    Craft a bio for your online profile that is both authentic and interesting. Share a bit about your interests, hobbies, and what you're looking for in a relationship. A well-written bio can help you stand out and attract like-minded individuals.

  3. Do Try To Be Positive and Approachable

    Maintain a positive tone in both your photos and bio. Smile in your pictures, and avoid negative or overly critical language in your profile text. Positivity is attractive and inviting.

  4. Do Include Key Details

    Include basic information such as your age, location, and what you do for a living. This helps potential matches get a sense of who you are and whether you two have common ground.

  5. Do Engage in Meaningful Conversations

    Make sure that you respond to messages and engage in thoughtful conversations with your matches. Show genuine interest in getting to know the other person, ask questions, and be an active participant in the communication process.

  6. Don't Use Misleading Photos:

    Avoid using heavily edited, AI-generated, or outdated photos that don't accurately represent your current appearance. Honesty is crucial when it comes to building trust in online dating.

  7. Don't Overshare Personal Information

    It's not smart to disclose sensitive personal information, like your home address or financial details, to strangers on the app. Protect your privacy and share personal information gradually as you get to know someone better.

  8. Don't Be Negative or Critical

    Avoid using your profile to vent your frustrations or complaints about past experiences with online dating or with former partners. A negative tone can deter potential matches. Focus on the positive aspects of yourself and what you're seeking.

  9. Don't Ghost or Disrespect Others

    Ghosting (suddenly cutting off communication) is considered disrespectful and hurtful. If you're no longer interested in someone, it's better to communicate your intentions politely and directly. Simply put, treat others with respect and courtesy.

  10. Don't Rush Into Meetings

    While the ultimate goal of dating apps is to meet in person, don't rush into real-life meetings without getting to know the person first. Take your time to build a connection and ensure you feel comfortable and safe before meeting in person in a public space.

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