Shonda Rhimes Is Not the Marrying Kind

The TV mogul says writing Grey's Anatomy helped her realize.

Shonda Rhimes isn't looking for anyone to put a ring on it.
The trailblazing TV mogul sat down with Entertainment Weekly to talk about her upcoming memoir, Year of Yes, and revealed that saying "yes" to a marriage proposal isn't something in her future. Rhimes says that she realized she didn't want to get married when she was writing a storyline for Cristina Yang on Grey's Anatomy.
"I was seriously dating somebody and I was like, 'I don’t want to do this,'" she says. “I guess I had been secretly feeling that way and writing it for Cristina [on Grey’s Anatomy]."
Rhimes adds that her marriage aversion made her feel like abnormal. "We’re all so conditioned to want it, I felt like there must be something wrong with me," she says. "But the minute I said it out loud to my family, it was fantastic. Now if somebody says, ‘Are you looking for that?’ I say, ‘Nope, looking for a boyfriend, not a husband.' And there’s a freedom to that. There’s no pressure if you’re not looking for it.”
Shonda has been defying expectations her whole life. See the many other ways she's a trailblazer and an icon in our video tribute to the Scandal creator, below:

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