Just in time for Mother's Day, BET.com had the chance to chat with the quintessential mompreneur Evelyn Lozada, whose reality show Livin' Lozada returns for its second season Saturday, May 7 at 10 p.m. on OWN. Opening up about all things mommyhood, she also gave us a very real look at her heartbreaking pregnancy struggles and what keeps her strong moving forward.
BET: Can you tell us a little bit of what we’re going to see unfold in Season 2 of Livin’ Lozada?
Evelyn Lozada: In the new season, as soon as we started filming, I find out I’m pregnant and then I find out [on Thanksgiving Day] that I miscarried again. So I had to make the decision if I wanted to talk about that again. I did, so we discuss that. We discuss me being a mom after twenty plus years and what that looks like now with a crazy toddler.
BET.com: How did you stay sane while filming during such an emotional time?
EL: Last season, it was really difficult because it was my first season filming after two plus years or so. You know, I’m just getting into the swing of things and I find out right in the beginning that I’m miscarrying. I always want to send a message and I always want to help.
BET.com: Do you think sharing your experience with other women will help them make it through similar circumstances?
EL: I felt like me being open and real about it is really going to do that. That’s my overall goal. That’s why I’m crying every episode because I’m so emotional about anything that I’m talking about and things that are dear to my heart.
BET.com: What are your thoughts on the stigma attached to a miscarriage?
EL: I don’t think there is a stigma. I just feel like it isn’t talked about, just like domestic violence or any other issue like that. Women are embarrassed about it. It’s not a conversation that women are open to talk about. And I feel like we should. Talking about it makes us feel better and you realize you’re not the only one. It will give you some type of peace.
BET.com: Are you and fiancé Carl Crawford still trying to get pregnant?
EL: We would like to. Naturally, yes. I’m hopeful. At the end of the season I start feeling like I need to figure out if this is going to happen naturally or if I need to do IVF [In vitro fertilization]. You’ll see I talk about that on the show.
BET.com: Your show is on OWN. What is it like having the support of Oprah Winfrey? Do you get invites to hangout in her infamous garden with her?
EL: [Laughs] No, I haven’t hung out in Oprah’s garden but I’m going to channel that and hopefully I will in the near future. The first time I met her, it was so surreal because she thanked me for being transparent. I was like, “Oh my God, is this really happening? Oprah’s telling me thank you?” It’s crazy! You walk into the office and you feel like you’re in a meeting with Jesus. It’s great energy.
BET.com: What’s your favorite way to spend Mother’s Day? Any Lozada Mother’s Day traditions?
EL: There’s no tradition. I leave it up to Shaniece. I just want to be with my kids. It doesn’t matter what I’m doing. As long as I’m with my kids, I’m happy. It doesn’t have to be fancy. I’m happy with a dinner.
BET.com: So what is your experience like being a mom of a two-year-old and twenty-two-year old? There’s such a large age gap between Carl Jr. and Shaniece, I’m sure it must be interesting.
EL: It was definitely me starting over because I was. I feel like now that I’m older, I’m more in tune with motherhood. With Shaniece, I was 17, fearless and didn’t worry about anything. He’s a crazy toddler. I’m tired. I’m 40 years old. He keeps me really busy.
BET.com: Are they close?
EL: They’re very close. He runs her and she knows it. But they have a good relationship. And he’s a boy. We don’t have a lot of boys in our family, so when we found out that I was having a boy, everyone was so over the moon.
BET.com: Would you be ready to be a grandma, or should I say "glamma," anytime soon?
EL: She’s 22, so if she decided to have a baby at 25, I’m totally open to it. I’m not going to be one of those ladies who don’t want to be called grandma. I want my grandkids to call me grandma. I’m going to be so excited! I can’t imagine. I’m going to be getting on her nerves.