Shaunie Henderson, formerly O'Neal, is living proof that you can find love and happiness after signing divorce papers. The entrepreneur— who was wed to Shaquille O’Neal from 2002 to 2011—recently married Pastor Keion Henderson with a lovely wedding on the beautiful island of Anguilla.
The idea of starting a new life after ending a long-term relationship can cause anxiety for some people. A quick glance at Shaunie's Instagram makes it clear that time truly does heal all wounds and that there is no telling what kind of blessings will come your way if you are open to receiving them.
While chatting with BET Lifestyle about her new reality series Shaunie & Keion's Destination ‘I Do'—a three-part wedding special on VH1—the busy mom-of-five shared her advice for women who may have apprehensions about falling in love again after divorce.
In Shaunie's opinion, moving on starts with therapy and taking some time to self-reflect before getting back into the dating scene. “I spent a lot of years single. In my mind, I was like, ‘I'm working on myself. And I'm fixing the things that are wrong with me.’"
She continues, "Honestly, you don't know if it's worked until you get back into the swing of things.”
Shaunie quickly learned that the best way to find love is to go with the flow and let the journey lead you to happiness.
“Don’t have such hard expectations on life and on yourself that you put guards up," she insists about the importance of not putting up roadblocks at every turn of a promising relationship. "You've probably made this list of what you will do and what you won't do. Just let that go and let things be what they are."
She further explains, "I think you manifest who you want to be, who you aspire to be, and who comes to you. You know, I didn't plan to be a pastor's wife. That probably never even crossed my mind. I don't think it was on any list. But here I am, I meet the man of my dreams and he happens to be a pastor.”
The First Lady of The Lighthouse Church & Ministries continues, “I'm okay with adjusting whatever I need to adjust in life because this is what I want. I met a man, not a pastor, you know what I mean? He's a man that happens to be a pastor. I think letting go of expectations and letting life happen like it's supposed to happen is my advice.”
While Shaunie admits it’s “easier said than done,” she says the results are well worth it. “If I had told myself that four years ago, I'd be like, ‘Girl, what does that mean?’ but you kind of just have to settle in it. Sit in it and be content in making yourself a better person. Whatever is meant for you will come for you.”
FYI: Watch "Shaunie & Keion's Destination 'I Do'" tonight at 9/8c on VH1.
Editor’s Note: This story/interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.