KimYe got into it on eve of the 2019 Met Gala in the latest Keeping Up With The Kardashians episode over Kim Kardashian's corset and skin-tight Thierry Mugler dress. "You are my wife and it affects me when pictures are too sexy," Kanye West opened up to Kim.
"I didn't realize that that was affecting my soul and my spirit as someone who is married and the father of now... about to be four kids.”.
He added, "A corset is a form of underwear, it's hot, for who though?"
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"You built me up to be this sexy person and confidence and all this, and just because you're on a journey and transformation doesn't mean I'm in the same spot with you," was Kim’s response before Kanye stormed out of the room.
This hot topic struck a chord with men and women on social media since this is shared relationship problem in the digital age. Men seem to have mixed feelings and/or rules when it comes to their significant other sharing sexy photos. In an effort to understand where the guys are coming from we reached out to our BET family and friends to ask:
How do you feel when your partner posts pics that are "too sexy"?
Maybe I Don't Make Her Feel Sexy Enough
"I would never stop my significant other from posting what she wants, but I would hope that if she knew it affected me negatively she'd be mindful of that and we could discuss some sort of compromise.
Maybe I don't make her feel 'sexy' enough. If that's the case, then I have a lot of work to do!" –Hinga Vonjo, MTV
I'm Cool With A Few Flex Pics
"You have to have that conversation with your partner and establish boundaries. Personally I wouldn’t want her half naked on Instagram all the time, but I’m cool with a few flex pics." –Brian McIntosh, BET
I Draw The Line At Photos With The Opposite Sex And Raunchy Pics
"As long as my woman is coming home to me and loves me truly, I don’t care if she posts sexy photos. [I'd draw the line with] any sexy photos that are her posing with the opposite sex and/or raunchy [pics] that shows genitalia." –Synpes Murdock, BET
I'm completely fine with my girl posting sexy photos if she's tactful with it
"I don’t mind sexy pics. It’s well received by me if the pics are in good taste and not excessive. For instance, the provocative NSFW images Solange used for the marketing of her last album were sexy, very revealing and hardly different from what Kim Kardashian posts.
However, we don’t look at Solange the same way we look at Kim. I say that to say this, I’m completely fine with my girl posting sexy photos if she’s tactful with it." –Michael Allamby, NewAm Wine
If she's Not In Entertainment, I don't Entertain It
"If my partner is not in some type of entertainment industry then I would definitely feel a way. Photos that are way too sexy just scream 'single' and is an invitation for other men to approach and even make remarks that can be disrespectful to me as her man. That type of energy shouldn’t even be introduced into a healthy relationship.
However, I do feel like if she was doing these things prior to me and never communicated that it’s something that would cease then it’s kind’ve on me because I knew this was going to happen beforehand. But ultimately I would expect her to respect my discomfort because my peace of mind should be worth more to her than whatever she is getting out of posting those pictures." –Kay Wynters, from 'The Wynters Coming Podcast'
It Would Be nice If she Asked Your Approval Out Of Respect
"It's a series of mixed emotions, on one hand knowing that 'damn, this all mine' and I'm proud that this beautiful specimen exists. Then it's the unwanted attention from other people that would infuriate me and causes jealousy to arise.
But it all boils down to the level of insecurity you have in your relationship and if you trust that your partner is not entertaining anyone in their comments. Also it would be nice if she asked your approval out of respect." –James Cameau, Behavioral Health Specialist
I Should Already Know That I Subscribed For That
"It depends if that’s what she does for a living or it’s what she was already doing when we met. I should already know that I subscribed for that and I would have to get over my own insecurities and ride with it.
If she is doing it just because and it has nothing to do with her profession, there are two ways of looking at it...
1. There may be an insecurity that she is dealing with where she is seeking validation from social media. If that’s the case, then we need to have that talk because there may be something about me that she isn’t fully happy with.
2. If she doesn’t normally do it and every once in a while she wants to post something somewhat sexy (PG13), I may applaud it and even encourage her to do it.
I believe in making your lady feel sexy. I encourage that behavior because she is a woman first and a partner second. You have to allow people to be who they are. If that makes you uncomfortable than as a man, you need to make a decision on whether or not you wanna go down a relationship path with someone.
Kanye was expressing his discomfort with Kim’s choice of photos but she was already Kim when he got with her. This isn’t new. His way of thinking may be a bit different now that they’ve been married several years and have a family. They aren’t the same Kim and Ye from 10 years ago. He was probably cool with it back then but is probably now seeking a more normal, married lifestyle with Kim, but Kim is gonna be Kim until she decides to otherwise. They aren’t growing into the same mind frame." –Jose Torres, BET
You Know What You Signed Up for
"Can’t really say much when that's how she was before you got into the picture." –Michael Gordon, BET
Both Participants Should Agree What Is And Isn't Acceptable Social Media Exposure
"Post marriage, I think both participants should agree what is and isn’t acceptable social media exposure. However my general feeing is marriage is an intimate partnership and intimate components of marriage should be shared with each other, unless otherwise agreed upon.
Additionally, I’d question the intent of a 'sexy pic' if it is to continue engaging a following for business purposes, that should be discussed during the previously mentioned 'exposure calibration meeting.'
If posting the pics are simply to show off what you got for general attention, that seems more problematic to me because you are seeking attention on intimate aspects of the marriage to external sources.
A partnership should fuel attention back to each other, not detract from each other." –Lancelot Drummonds
It's More Of a Respect For Your Partner Kind Of Thing
"I don’t mind sexy photos at all but when you start revealing a little too much, it’s an issue and it’s nothing to do with insecurities, it’s more of a respect for your partner kind of thing. The only exception I think would be valid is if when you met them they were involved in that kinda of work like modeling, acting, etc. Outside of that, nah. You don’t even get an argument, you get the pink slip. Lol." –Noel Aviles, UFC Coach
The Boundaries Or Rules I Have Concern Attention
“I think SEXY pics are cool. I don’t want to objectify anybody I am with, but my top five things about a person that gets me is sex appeal. So flaunt it. I am not into porn stars or strippers on the 'Gram, but as an artist myself, I love and appreciate art.
The boundaries or rules I have concern attention. If my partner is posting to be validated in a toxic way, then we need to see a therapist. In my relationship, it’s all about how we manage that level of attention. Responding to comments, DMs, or sh*t like that can be problematic.
As far as Kanye and Kim, mannnnnn get away from her with that. He has admitted multiple times that he was a fan of her sex tape and encouraged Kim for like a whole two years to walk out the house damn near naked. I’ve seen Kim wear dresses that he picked out where she sitting at an Oscars dinner with her tits on the table. Come on now it's her brand." –Maurice Marcel, Freelance Writer