Melanie Fiona says the year she found the love of her life, her mantra was: “Happy, Healthy, Creative.”
In an interview with xoNecole, the Grammy Award winner discussed how a season of solitude and self-work set the tone for so many aspects of her life—especially marriage. “I started valuing my time, my energy, my body, my love, my generosity, and grace for myself more than ever,” Fiona shared. "I realized that I was not preserving myself for me or who deserved me. And so the minute I started operating from that space, I woke up and was ready to meet someone. I said it so clearly and just operated from a space of openness and positivity and self-love and self-value."
The “Give It To Me Right” singer went on to reveal that she spent a year and a half not dating to do self-work, speak affirmatively, and manifest a life she could be proud of. The songwriter explained, “I think the universe or God heard me and saw that I was doing the work and willing to set boundaries for myself with other people. I was living an obedient life that would create space for healthy love and healthy relationships and happiness to come in beautiful, creative opportunities.”
Setting boundaries for yourself and others can be such a catalyst for change. Being open for rebuilding a valuable relationship is equally important. That is evident when it comes to Fiona and her now husband Jared Cotter.
Less than a year into their relationship, the couple broke up. However, within six months the lovebirds rekindled their union with unlimited love, friendship, and happiness.
"I always knew that there was more for our story. I didn't know how or when it would present itself, but I'm very grateful that it was only six months," she recalled. "On the outside, I had to move and live and treat him and the whole situation–even amongst our mutual friends–like we were moving on. But on the inside, I knew there was more."
The following saying comes to mind, “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it is yours."
To learn more about the duo's story, watch OWN’s Black Love.